Whiterose, thanks for your reply. The kids are 6 and 9.
The ironic part of them bringing him up this week is that we were supposed to visit w/ my MIL and his niece (their cousin) since they are in town town visiting from far away (mil requested we get together, I didn't push for it) today.
My H has known for weeks that his mom and niece were supposed to come by while he was at work but at the last minute he expressed to me that he's pissed about the whole thing so I agreed not to see them as planned. He made a whole big deal about how confusing it would be to my kids to see them.
He goes from one day being their "step dad" to the next day being completely absent in their lives (by moving out and not staying in touch) and he's now worried what seeing his family at a park for a play date might do to them emotionally? I'm glad he's saying he's concerned for their well being but I feel like of all things to worry about he's focusing on the wrong thing. Whether we get back together or not his family will be in our lives for a long time since I'm having his moms grandchild here in a few weeks.
I also sense he really, really doesn't want me around his mom w/o him being present. I can certainly understand why but its just another reminder that he doesn't want me in his life.
I was really looking forward to this visit for the past few weeks, especially for the kids to visit their cousin and instead I'm spending the day feeling sad and rejected. I know he's just looking to feel support from his mom, and I'm happy she's honoring his wishes, it's just not what I pictured for my day.
Once again I just keep going back to how much I hate what this is doing to my kids. They already lost access to their step dad now they are losing access to a step grandparent and a step cousin who used to be "their family". Remarriage makes everything so confusing and I look forward to time in the future where my relationship woes don't hurt these little ones that didn't ask for any of this. Guilt & sadness, not what I wanted to kick off this weekend
BD: Aug 2012 Separated since May 2013 S born Aug 2013 Aug 2013 H agrees to consider 'baby steps toward working things out' H is/was actively seeing someone?
