Thank you everyone for all the support you've given me over the past months and especially over the last few weeks. The DB books and this forum have given me the strength to survive the most trying time of my life, to grow, and develop new skills. Now that my W has dropped the TRO, I hope it will now give me the strength and wisdom to stop this darn D and win my wife back.

I've been doing a lot of thinking since the events of yesterday. Her dropping the TRO and being amenable to the settlement agreement was not anything I could have ever expected. Now I find myself dwelling on her illness. I was stunned by the first two events, by the time she told me about her illness I was flabbergasted and could barely speak. I didn't want to pry, so I let her tell me what she comfortable telling me in the 5-10 minutes we had to talk. (As I said in my previous post, she said she had to go back to work and I wanted to be the first to end the conversation (per DB) so I said "Well, I'm sure I'll be hearing from you soon."

Now I feel guilty about not being more inquisitive and showing more of an interest. Did I do the right thing? Keep in mind I was emotionally checked-out for most of our marriage and that is one of my 180s. As I recall (remember, stunned), she said is supposed to have some diagnosis/prognosis results in the next week or two. Should I reach out if I don't hear from her in a week? Two? Should I reach out now? Should I wait as long as necessary until she reaches out? I don't want to pressure her at all.

I want so much to be there for her through her illness. I guess I've discovered one of my LL is service. I asked her if there was anything I could do, but she demurred and said her family was there for her. I got the sense that she wasn't getting as much support as she would have liked from them. She said there some sort of crisis going on in her family too. She wasn't specific about this either.

Today/tonight's GAL agenda: Catch a movie, sell some stuff on eBay, read at least a chapter of DR, see if my friend who was said he might be in town this weekend made it.

Thanks for the prayers for my W's health and I hope you'll continue to keep her in your thoughts and prayers until she gets an all-clear.