He just told me at the lacrosse tournament last weekend that he was trying to line up a week at a lake house because he had vacation to "burn up" and was thinking of bringing down his friend's boat to pull the kids around on the water.
A few posts up I was noting that I had no idea if I was invited or not based on the way he said it, so I was letting my mind wander over "should I go" and "should I not go." I think he worded it vaguely in hopes that I would go or not go if I wanted and not based on a direct request from him. So in my email I was trying to be clear without offensive, that he is not invited.
My giving him an option to object to the dates was because I haven't booked anything yet and he might be further along on the lake idea, I have no idea and really don't mind accommodating that.
Based on a very-very common dynamic with us, it would be entirely realistic that he had an offer on a place, got an email that I planned to take the kids to the beach, didn't say a word and cancelled his lake house, and then resented me and accused me to others of monopolizing the kids. Monopolizing the kids was one of the three complaints he told his mom before the bomb to explain why he was leaving me, and she told me SHE AGREED that I do that. Ugh. So he's squirrely with making firm plans and if he has them I want to not ACCIDENTALLY interfere with them.
See what I mean?
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
