Why would someone who doesn't know if he wants to stay married to me want me to become his business partner? Why would he want to keep our original will and have our ashes co-mingled after death. Really?? He doesn't know if he wants to be married to me and grow old with me, but he knows that he wants to run a business together and spend eternity with me after death???
He's planning (once again) to start up his own business. He approached me about being a partner because to quote him "no matter what happens between us he still trusts my business judgement and abilities". Go figure. And then he starts on about the will, and how, if we stay separated, we would only need to change the inheritance part of our will so that S13 inherits everything from which ever of us passes first, but he doesn't want to change the co-mingled ashes part.
Obviously his mind is running circles again. And the previous time we spoke he was lucid, making and holding eye contact, and much more like his old self. Actually he still sounded like his old self this time, but there was some distance there again - he wouldn't (or couldn't) hold eye contact for long, kept looking away like he didn't want me to see anything there. I used to be able to read him through his eyes and he knows that.
I haven't given him an answer to either statement. Just said I'd need some time to consider things. That it wasn't a decision either of us should rush into. He acknowledged but kept saying he knows the business would be a good opportunity as he's already got some potential clients if he can get it up and running. He said he's already looking into tax implications for both of us as well, and he's got some staffing interest as well.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
