GM - Don't get too discouraged. I had a couple of dry years myself, which looking back at times seem appealing based on the exact opposite that is occuring this year. I do enjoy companionship and having a significant other in my life, but there are also benefits to being completely unattached and alone as well. I'd say just enjoy life and sooner or later, one way or another, someone special will join you when you least expect it.
So my dating spree this week has ended and here are my recaps:
Tuesday night I went out to dinner with Jan. Weatherwise It was a lovely evening so we sat outside. The conversation was very nice, we ate and chatted for about 2 1/2 hours. However there was really no romance to it at all or affection on her part. The very little bit of affection we had was instigated by me and that was just basically reaching out to hold her hand on the way to walking her to her car. I mentioned that I felt we were more in the friend zone since this was our fourth date and we had really not progressed at all beyond talking and that the chemistry seems lacking. She said that she just doesn't know me very well yet but is interested in me. Not sure what to make of it all. I am a somewhat affectionate guy and by the fourth date I feel like there should be at least some mutual display of affection, i.e. holding hands, a kiss good night. So I'm on the fence as to whether I want to see her again.
Wednesday night I Romy came over to my house and I cooked a nice dinner for us. The date with Romy could not be more opposite than the one with Jan. Romy certainly lives up to her name and basically roamed all over me! She has made it crystal clear that she is "into me." I'll leave it at that - and yes we will be seeing each other again.
Last night I took Lucy to an outdoor concert. I prepared a nice picnic basket with fruit, cheese, crackers and wine. We had very nice conversation which flowed effortlessly. Of the three women, I really think I could connect the most with Lucy however I am afraid that feeling may be only on my part. She is very reserved and I really don't think it's necessarily me - she is just not completely over the unexpected passing of her husband 4 years ago and not ready to be dating anyone. It doesn't help that the anniversary of his death is this week. So that said, I sent her a very nice email this morning letting her know that I enjoyed our evening and that if she was interested in getting together again to please let me know. I will leave it at that to see how she responds.
Tonight it's me time, I'm going to relax and recover from my week!
BA-I'm glad you're figuring this stuff out. I have to say good for you for paying attention to your intuitions about Lucy. I think you might be right there. And Romy sounds fun. What's wrong with a fun GF?
This will be the first weekend that I don't have D16 that I won't see Sweet Stuff. I'm totally okay with that. His S17 is spending the weekend with him, and I'm really jazzed for him. We're going to see Superman on Monday, though.
He did tell me that after D19 heads off to college again that he'd like to spend more time with me. I'm glad he understands my setup.
Okay, I'm working from home today and I want to post to Barb before I sign off.
TTFN-
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Betsey, See you at 3 today! Let's meet in the pro shop or right outside the main entrance. I've never been to this course, but always wanted to. I'll wear white shorts just in case there's a mix up of little petite blondes! BA, Good for you for working through it. Sounds like you're figuring it all out.
As for me.... Had a nice date with Man J yesterday. We hiked and then he made me dinner. As with "Romy" it is very clear he is into me. I guess I'm still deciding and unsure. I'm not crazy about the fact that he lives one hour away from me. That means if we do decide to become more than 'dates' we'll be spending a lot of time together when we do see each other. I'll be at his house or he'll be at mine. Hmm....I do like how active he is. Mountain biking and skiing are his passions (both of which I enjoy). Guess I'll just have to wait and see.
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
GG: sounds like u r looking for negatives that are not there. Don't sabotage a good thing. Josh lived more than an hour away. That was not what I wanted but we made it work & it was the best of all worlds.
Sounds like a plan. I'm not sure what I'm wearing, as I just got out of the shower and am hemming and hawing. But I'm 5-8. I'll probably be in my white capris.
I don't know if you saw the weather forecast, but they are calling for thunderstorms this afternoon. If that happens, we can go right to the 19th hole?
I've been by this course plenty of times, so it will be fun to actually go in. It's near the zoo...
We'll talk about Man J. Sometimes distance can help slow things down or keep things level. I agree with Barb - don't go borrowing trouble.
Face it, I think all of us are skittish around here. That much I've figured out. We're all with a lurking mindset of "this probably won't work, but..."
Deep breaths.
Ok, got to get ready. D19 and I are heading to Joanne's. She wants me to teach her how to sew pillows for her dorm. I'm glad this is basic sewing machine skills, because I don't have the time to do more than that. And since she's leaving soon, neither does she.
See you at 3!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Thanks Betsey for hitting some golf balls and having dinner. What great conversations we had; I look forward to many more. I can't wait to see you again on Wednesday!
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
Tonight we'll see how it goes with Man L. He's the last guy I was in contact with before I left Match.com. He's very funny and chose a place close to my house...bonus points!
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
Thank YOU for the fun "date" yesterday. I'm also looking forward to Wednesday. Melissa texted me this morning and is rounding up more folks to join us as well. I told her about being there by 5...
I've been working my butt off deep vacuuming and mopping all the tile. I'm sweaty and exhausted. It feels like a workout. The humidity doesn't help. I'll be happy about that when it starts raining again. I love cloudy and rainy Sundays. We hardly ever get days that are cloudy all day, so this is a treat.
Tomorrow Sweet Stuff and I are going to the movies. Not sure which one, but we will have fun. Work has been so busy, so I hope that busyness occurs earlier in the day.
My hot landscaper is supposed to finish my front yard tomorrow. Wish I could work from home again, but that's not possible. I hate that my neighbors get to ogle him more than I do. He's got an amazing chest. My neighbor met me in the middle of the street yesterday morning to tell me she watched, and enjoyed the back view just as much. Apparently, my hood is filled with appreciative, horny middle aged women who know eye candy when they see it. I'll make sure D19 is up to set up her laptop with the view early. She was as interested as the rest of us...
I'm sure my status as sh!tty neighbor will improve with this development. When I get more money, I'll engage step 2 of the plan. That will definitely put me in a better spot with the women here. Thank goodness sex sells here in lonely heartsville!
Hope everyone had a great weekend!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Betsey, The patio opens at 5, so we should be able to get a table with a "view" of Denver's finest "Cougar Town."
Update: Sent Dave a birthday text this morning and he responded back very enthusiastically with wanting to see me and telling me his work has been chaotic and he had stuff going on with his son. Not quite sure what to think? Maybe my text never made it? Who knows, but we'll see what happens next.
2 hours until Man L and I'm looking forward to meeting him. It finally stopped raining so wine on a patio should be lovely this evening.
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
She has made it crystal clear that she is "into me." I'll leave it at that - and yes we will be seeing each other again. 
