i have found a counsellor, 3 times more expensive than all the others but ticks all the boxes. Gonna try set up an appointment for next week.
Do I make a point of getting W to pay half?
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
In my experience solutions focussed therapy will enable the couple to come together and repair the marital team or seek a less acrimonious ending.
How wary should I be of that last statement. Not exactly pro marriage or are they just trying get more work?
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
Sounds honest. No one can guarantee that you'll repair your marriage.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
Fair enough, any thoughts on making W pay for half?
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
I've got to admit it is a nice feeling the way it is going. I mentally position myself a few times a day to remind myself that if it goes nowhere I'm fine either way. Expectations aren't zero but I'm managing to keep them in check.
Excellent progress! You don't need to be suspicious of her new behavior, just cautious so you protect yourself.
-PM
Good point, I have been very suspicious.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
You're the one who suggested it as part of possible Recon, right?
Is it a financial hardship for you to pay?
Is she in a better position than you financially?
When you say that first part, are you saying because I suggested it I should pay?
Once I have done the grocery shopping there's nothing left from my wages. Any extra expenditure is coming out of my overdraft which means more debt.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
Talk to the people at Retro! Trust me - they will understand this and properly come up with a solution! Give them a call and do it now - before you start worrying to much about this!
F
Me:44 W:43 D7, D5 (S11 from other R)
T: 8y - not M ILYB: 8. Mar 2013 W moved: 1. Aug 2013 LRT: 20. Aug 2013 _______________________________ Do or do not – there’s no try.
I will give them a shout and see what they say, good idea F!
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
