I'm glad your H decided on his own not to go to the wake. Didn't make sense (IMO) and you handled it well.

Happy for your progress and that you're feeling better about your marriage, that is wonderful!

me: 30 H:30
tgthr:7 m:4
no kids
5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012
long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012
official BD: July 2013
nothing filed
1/1/14 I dropped the rope