Yep, kml--you hit the nail! That fear of a subconscious motive is another reason why I feel I should not contact him.
I am absolutely sure he will not say the "I never stopped loving you." My fear is that I want to see his relationship with OW floundering, that would be a good enough signal for me; that I might grab at that thread of hope and try to keep the door slightly ajar. Which would be dishonest for the new relationship.
