I have both "academic" and "practical" reasons for not contacting him. After all the MLC books and forums I have read, the common message seems to be don't contact the MLCer, he will just run further away. My gut instinct also tells me that xH is avoiding me and no matter how much I wish we could just have a calm, friendly talk about what went wrong in the past, if he isn't ready for that and he just wants to avoid me and the memory of what he has done, I can't get him to do it.
But if you think that there might be arguments in favor of contacting him to say hi and see how he's doing, do let me know.
Last time I contacted him (in Feb) it was to tell him that one of his official docs (that he had at my place) has expired. It was a courtesy email, but I confess that I also wanted to suss out his state of mind. His response was brief, complained about being overworked and not enjoying his work too much (when he left me, he also changed his job and bought an apartment) and concern about his grandfather's health. I adore his grandpa, but he did not tell me what was going on with him. I had to call his parents to find out how things are with his grandpa. After that he never emailed.
