Good observations & I agree on the letter to B. interesting thing happened today that helped with communication.
He worked on a tv show recently. His first time. Had sent me the link but it didn't work & when I put something aout it on FB - he was angry with me (although he was also angry that no one seems to otice his link - probably didn't work for them either)
But tonight I happened upon the show. Never knew I got the Travel channel. Perfect show for him to do "Family Vacation". He happened to send me the link again just after I started to PVR it. Do I excitedly emailed him that it was on. Later I messages him that I had caught 2 episodes, taped them and saw his name on the credits! Very proud mama! So we had some good communication.
A was in a great mood. Home from work, made her nutritional meal, went outside to paint a chair for me - her 3rd of about 3 painting sessions as we are changing the colour of each of our wooden Muskoka (Adirondack ) Chairs. She came in & exercised then cleaned up the kitchen. So - no "friend" around tonite. She talked a bit about the future - just that she will go back to Niagara after summer until she figures out work & living arrangements. She knows this is a summer thing.
Kat - you wouldn't want to change your cards for mine, truly. Remember - I have Ryan. But I have always said - we can't control the cards we've been dealt - we can just play our best hand.
A friend just told me her daughter is pregnant. She has been away at school. Once the shock wore off - they decided she should be home near Mom & Dad but her boyfriend and also his Mom are moving to their hometown. I'm sure it has not been easy. But they are focussing on the new life soon to emerge. I congratulated her on her soon to be first grand baby & will send a gift when the time comes. I think she is playing her cards in the. Est way she can, always supporting the young couple.
But we all have different situations. Betsey, Fig & myself have special needs kids - always a challenge - but also a real eye opener to a lot of realities - many we never wanted to have,
Yesterday I met Ryan's new supervisor. 150% better than the precious horror woman. Strangely, they are both named Catherine. I asked if I could call her Cathy. She agreed. When I described the insane, controlling behavior of the other Catherine she looked at me & calmly said " sounds like she wasn't paying her liability premiums". Suddenly it all made sense. Every crazy thing she did to me seemed to fit that scenario. "In time, all things become clear" - and so it is!
Ryan's care is going super. His birthday last week was awesome as Josh, his nurse & I took him to the zoo and we are now planning his 2013 trip to Disney with his current nurse & one former nurse from Niagara. It's all coming together.
So I plan to do the letter to B tomm. I think it should make a difference. The rest is up to him.
