Oh Raine. I just caught up on your sitch and I am so very sorry for you that you had to go through this.
On the other hand maybe it was good in a sense. I think h sees how determined you are that he is not going to disrespect you or your kids the way he has been. I also think he may have gotten a swift kick realizing he is coming way too close to losing all of you. This is 2 times recently, the other being when you weren't home when he got home.
You are a very strong person and I think this just proved it to yourself. Sometimes i think it takes a bold move such as this for us to see just how far we have come.
I finally told my h that i was done. He was also disrespecting me because he too had gone back to OW. I'm not sure because it just happened tonight but I think he too is backpedaling a little but I'm holding my ground too. He has said a few things tonight that make me think he is worried that I said I am done.
I am hoping someone can answer this for us. I noticed you said that he did not really say he was sorry and also I guess he didn't ask for forgiveness. The same with my h. Why is this? Normal people would feel terrible and say they were sorry and beg for forgiveness. Why don't our h's?
I want to say how wonderful you handled this awful situation but now you know how strong you are and your kids are so lucky that they have you. He is the one that is going to have to answer the kid's questions. How he chooses to handle it will be interesting.
And I do understand the need to be there for him. I feel exactly the same way but there comes a time when it comes at the expense of our sanity and our kids we have to be careful too.
M 48 H 50 M 25 T 27 D 20,18,15 6/11 H filed 3/12 H dropped 4/12 H moved out
