It can be tough, sometimes there is no easy solution and you just have to not take it personally. Give the ol' "I'm sorry you feel that way"
Or, say what you think, maybe alter it from:
Quote:
"Oh ok you weren't like this to me last week"
to: "Hmmm, I don't remember you being like this last week, but I could be wrong."
Notice the difference when you take out the "to me"? How it sounds? You take away the personal so they can't get as defensive (that they are treating YOU poorly) and want to lash back.
Or, you call her on it. "Then leave". And I have done that, 4 times. She is still here.
What do you want to do, PON? Where do you want to go? What is Plan A, Plan B, Plan C, etc? What do you need to do to implement any of those plans?
You are working on you, then don't take her crap personally first, then decide what and how you are going to respond...what response will get you to YOUR goal?
But first, stop taking it personally, imo. That's tough to do, I know. But if you can find NO reason that YOU caused for her to be that way, then it is HER issue, so it's illogical to take it personally.
But you have to be honest with yourself to be sure that YOU did nothing in reality to "make" her react/act that way. Hope that all makes sense.
Keep going!
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
