Hi Yankee, I haven't been in here in a long time, so sorry for not responding until now. I'm sorry for not being able to be on here in ages as well.
I'm glad that things are going well for you Yankee, you really hung in there and are seeing the benefits of it all now.
Updates of where I'm up to...
As of 19th of July 2013 I was officially divorced. I know that so many people's goal on here is to avoid this at all cost, but for me it represents closure to an unhappy relationship and transitional period in my life.
If people don't know my back story, my wife cheated on me with an older man and we couldn't save the marriage.
I qualified as a teacher this month and have managed to get my first teaching job working in a special needs school.
My new relationship is going so well. She really challenges me and I'm so happy.
When my bombshells were dropped I was a major mess and a lot of great people on here talked sense into me and helped me get back on my feet.
If you are a newbie on here and you think your world has come to an end, that's exactly what I thought when my bombs were dropped. Trust me it's not the end of your world. It is the end of your old relationship with your husband or wife.
This site helps you to save yourself, nobody saves their marriage the way it was, some people make a new relationship with their husband or wife.
Your first step is to realise that your life / relationship with your partner is messed up and that your first goal is to fix yourself.
Fix yourself and life will take care of the rest for you (well maybe not everything, you need specific goals and Michelle's books and this forum to help you along the way).
Don't give up on yourself, no matter how bad you think things are, they will get better.
Me 34 W 32 D 9 S 6 M: 9 years T: 12 Bomb: 02/11/12 EA/PA: 12/17/11 - ongoing Moved out: Oct 2012 Joint Filed for D: 2/11/13
