I want ot get this book but it's only available in the US and will take 2-3 weeks to get it shipped over here.
There are some book reviews on the internet about this book, try to find them, it is not actually neccessary to obtain the book.
I got it through an interlibrary loan and could only keep it a short time, plus it took a month or so to come.
Let me know if you find them!
Just keep in mind that links are not allowed on DB.
Thanks Cadet I will look for the reviews
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Well, obviously I'm no expert here but sounds like something I would try if I had the opportunity to. You might know better than most what he would say about doing this with your family right? I guess I am figuring out there are no right answers when having to deal with WAS. Yes, detaching or going no contact is one answer but, then there comes the times when contact is initiated by WAS and you either ignore or you respond. Cadet is correct that since I quit initiating, W has decided to contact even though it was for something she wanted. BUt then again, she did provide me with her new phone number unexpectedly. I have also found that one can have a MLC at any age or at least symptoms similiar to MLC. The threads I have been reading indicate most WAS could fall into this category also. So trying180, in my humble opinion if you feel asking H to a family outing might have some results then maybe you should do it. The only real thing that could happen is he says no and you start again with no contact. Again, there are no real doggone answers unless you are using this stuff to completely detach and move on...I think thats what this is all about.
Thanks for your answer I hope you don't mind me invading your thread with a question of my own. I've decided for now just to concentrate on cleaning and tidying the house. I'm going to spend at least one day on it a week and a few extra hours when I get time. You know how busy I am! lol.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
You sent me a post and asked for my advice, so here it is. So far, your W has simply asked you questions when she made contact. Until she starts saying more, you need to just drop it and get out and GAL. You have hashed, thrashed, and diced her few emails to pieces.
It is important that the WAW has to work hard to get the LBH back again. As you as you are trying to help her get you back.....she won't want ya.
If you will go forward and enjoy your life, her D will probably be telling your W how great you're doing. BTW, you are not to "tell" her D how wonderful you are doing. People have a way of hearing these things without our help.
Do you want a W who doesn't love you? Don't you deserve to have a woman who loves you? Then why would you try to force a woman to have a R with you if she doesn't want it?
Yay that's a great post I agree with everything you say I do think though that 2old is finally getting the importance of 180 He's not obsessed about his wife for at least a day, lol You know I'm only kidding 2old!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
haha @ trying180, Yes, Ive been accepting things better as every day passes. Sandi's blistering was confirmation and is great to hear coming from her first hand experience.
So, as I was reviewing all that was discussed over the past couple of days, it does appear that I was over analyzing her emails to me. So now I'm writing this out to vent a little which helps tremendously. Only justification I can give is that weve had so little contact being initiated by her it was to me a hopeful sign. First her out of the blue giving me her new phone number then another about a financial issue. Those were without her seeking something in immediate return. But, as look at the lates ones she was definately on a mission to get her vehicle registered where she is now. Thing is it's not due for 3 months so it didnt make sense to me why now. To Sandi's point, yes I obviously hashed and thrashed the last emails too much. The good news however, is that my responses did not come across out of desperation. Just giving her answers with a touch of kindness. So, now all remains quiet and I will not be initiating any contact and I havent been for some weeks now. Anyways, all the info and I advise on here I'm given is very much appreciated and studied upon. It is hard though to set emotions aside sometimes when contact is initiated from her after long quiet times. I can now say however, the more info and advice I am given the stronger and smarter I become. Thank to everyone who is providing me with their expertise and I mean this sincerely....
You do sound stronger than before It will be emotional for you and at times painful. The reward at the end of it though will be worth it So glad you are taking our advice I wouldn't say I'm an expert, it's just it's easier to see someone else's sitch than your own sometimes and the advice given is because we've all been there and we can see what works and what doesn't. I've still not heard from my H, which is hard but I've not let it stop me from GAL. I intend to start staying at home at least half a day a week, lol. I want to get this place tidy and clean for me and my son
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
2old, don't forget to let me know what your new thread is called, thanks
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
