You sent me a post and asked for my advice, so here it is. So far, your W has simply asked you questions when she made contact. Until she starts saying more, you need to just drop it and get out and GAL. You have hashed, thrashed, and diced her few emails to pieces.
It is important that the WAW has to work hard to get the LBH back again. As you as you are trying to help her get you back.....she won't want ya.
If you will go forward and enjoy your life, her D will probably be telling your W how great you're doing. BTW, you are not to "tell" her D how wonderful you are doing. People have a way of hearing these things without our help.
Do you want a W who doesn't love you? Don't you deserve to have a woman who loves you? Then why would you try to force a woman to have a R with you if she doesn't want it?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!