VENT, VENT, VENT, VENT! Welcome to my rollercoaster. Nothing will snap you out of your depression momentarily like talking to a crazy person.
She's stalling. She won't take on the specifics of divorcing.
She wants me to know:
She is keeping her income (I say income... it's unemployment) in our joint acct. (I moved all of mine to a new private account)... I wonder if her broke, unemployed, AP know this? Yeah... they are shacked up together in the AP room that she lives in for FREE with her BFF for the past 18 months... well, my SBXW says it's not free... she get room and board for helping to take care of the woman's kids. My SBXW is now in that mooch room with her.
She is willing to continue splitting all of the utilities 50/50 even though she is not using them. ???WHAT???
She does not want me to send her all of her personal belongings that I packed. "Just leave them in the garage. I'll get them later." Can't tell me when... just later.
She won't tell me her new address to forward her mail. "I don't know it." huh? Really? You've been driving there behind my back for almost 2 years. It's in your GPS on your phone. Or you could turn to AP and ask her!
She wants me to stay in the house until the mortgage re-modify is done. Not to get my own apartment.
She needs 2 knee replacements that she has put off for years. I carry the health insurance. I told her that I would give her until December or May... whenever I had to reaffirm her as a dependant with the insurance company and then i would remove her. She has until then to get the surgeries. She wants to know if "hypthotically, I don't get the surgeries done by December you won't extend my health insurance?" ???WHAT???
Hmmmm.... this is all looking like status quo to me. Keep the W at home and live in a romance novel with AP. Come on!!!
I guess I just have to do this alone. That's it. I was dark except for trying to talk financials and house... she won't even do that. I'll do it all myself. I'm not dark... I'm a freaking black hole.
I'm going home and using this anger to cut the grass!!!
Me(F):40 WAW:44 T:13yrs M:9yrs BD:2/12 (I saw a text) ILYBINILWY: 5/12 PA admission: 12/12 (began 3/11) S:2/13 Moves in w/AP D begins: 7/13 W moves home to R: 10/13
