M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
I've got to admit it is a nice feeling the way it is going. I mentally position myself a few times a day to remind myself that if it goes nowhere I'm fine either way. Expectations aren't zero but I'm managing to keep them in check.
Excellent progress! You don't need to be suspicious of her new behavior, just cautious so you protect yourself.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
It's good to see how you're working through all this.
You might try looking for Solution Focused Brief therapy.
If you can't find that, call some therapists and tell them what you're looking for, they may practice that or something siilar and just not list it as such.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
Got a text from W this morning. She has been to see her doctor. She could be Bipolar and they are referring her to the Mental Health Department.
Bipolar... that makes a lot of sense now why her behavior has been so bizarre. How is she taking the news? My FIL's wife (well just became x) thinks he might just be and I agree but we know he'd NEVER even suspect that he might be. So that's a huge step that your W went to see a doctor on her own and finding that she might be bipolar.
M37 H36 M8 T12 inc 3yr L-dist 7/12:H broke down 10/12:H dad D frm W4. BD soon after 1/13:H wants to leave 2/13:H gpa passed. Feels closer but H still leaving 3/13: S begins
It's good to see how you're working through all this.
You might try looking for Solution Focused Brief therapy.
If you can't find that, call some therapists and tell them what you're looking for, they may practice that or something siilar and just not list it as such.
Thanks, it feels good.
I will give that a try.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
Got a text from W this morning. She has been to see her doctor. She could be Bipolar and they are referring her to the Mental Health Department.
Bipolar... that makes a lot of sense now why her behavior has been so bizarre. How is she taking the news? My FIL's wife (well just became x) thinks he might just be and I agree but we know he'd NEVER even suspect that he might be. So that's a huge step that your W went to see a doctor on her own and finding that she might be bipolar.
When we met she said she suspected she was and she had suffered from depression in the past. She also thinks her F is too. She was going to carry on with her IC that she was seeing 6 months before we met. We couldn't afford it when she moved here and then we got so busy with jobs, wedding, finances and kids it never happened.
I think it's sinking in, hard to tell when we are not in the same room. She sounds a bit worried. I validated her quite a bit when she told me. I told her that I'm here if she wants to talk.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
W emailed me back about the kids today, tbh I was expecting hostility but she backed down quite a way and what she has suggested suits me fine.
Her parents are away during Retrouvaille too. My brother says he might have the kids.
I got some post today from the 'Land Registry'. It just states in a roundabout way that W rights to the house exist (which I knew they did anyway).
It's dated Tuesday and it was asked for by a solicitor. This could have been setup last week.
Do I mention to her that I have got it or just leave it for now?
All that it confirms for me is that she wasn't bluffing when she threatened last week. Knowing her though that doesn't surprise me.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
Just a word of caution, someone with mood swings is not necessarily bipolar, that diagnosis requires a lot more. Wait and see what the final diagnosis is before settling in on that.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
Just a word of caution, someone with mood swings is not necessarily bipolar, that diagnosis requires a lot more. Wait and see what the final diagnosis is before settling in on that.
I agree. Any idea on how (if) I should express that to her?
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
