Jax, you don't have to delete your thread, but the mods do like you to start another when you get to 100 posts. when you want to lock, click notify on the last post on the thread and send a msg to lock.

About sending an email, why would you send it now? Has she asked you to do something recently?

If she does then you can say W, I can't do those things for you right now.

But I don't think you're sold on that boundary. Really think about it before you set it.

Don't do it if the only reason is you think it will make her see the light and want you back.

You spend a lot of time wondering about why she left, she told you why she left. You just don't buy it and that's spinning your wheels, keeping you stuck. Your job is to work on you.

Good luck, buddy. This is hard stuff.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss