Hi Mooka,

I think you did a pretty well sunday, especially the hour you spent listen to him discuss the "seeing eye dog" theory and the rest...remember, let him believe whatever he wants to believe as far as why he thins he's too "stuck" to come home..

In my mind, the most important part of the conversation revolved around his suggestion to have dinner wednesday night. Because that was the opportunity to see WHO IS CONTROLLING THE PURSUIT GAME. Again, you won't really see him UNSTICK himself until he is convinced in his mind that he WANTS to be with you again. Trust me, men will find solutions to whatever we thought was unfixable in the R, when we don't really want to lose a woman we're ATTRACTED to. The first step is getting the ball rolling in the PURSUIT end of things..for instance..
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When he first got home H asked about getting together for dinner this WED. I said sure that would be fine.

I probably would have said In a polite, upbeat manner.. "Oh shoot, that sounds like fun BUT I already have plans this wednesday night..OK if I look at my schedule and give you a ring sometime in the NEXT WEEK OR SO and we can maybe work something out??.." That sends him the message that he is NOT your sole PRIORITY, while HE CHOOSES to SEPERATE from you..you don't have to cancel out on him every time, just enough for the R-E-S-P-E-C-T for the R to establish itself once again and allow for the dynamics of the sitch to change in your favor..
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Then I said.."I am confused about wednesday, lets make a plan or not...I don't want to wonder until the hour before.

No you don't want to wonder the hour before and you certainly don't WANT him thinking you're WONDERING about any plans at all, because that just keeps him right back up there on the pedestal he needs to COME DOWN from a little bit . Next time he schedules, then cancels, don't get flustered, just roll with it, SUGGEST that you just put it on the backburner for now...make no mention of wanting to reschedule...and the NEXT time he initiates something, make sure you are too busy to accept his PLAN 1, even if you aren't, and then accept his next date if you feel like it..

Other than that, you're doing a great job at avoiding bringing up the R and connecting with him when he starts talking about HIS ISSUES, and thats a good thing.