Two years in limbo, it's a fine place

[adinva]

I'm trying to model for H what I would like to see from him when making plans. And I learned it's not as easy as it looks. I consider myself pretty well attuned to how my words will be read, because it's a big part of my career. So when I had to write and rewrite this to get it clear I could see better why my H who is not in a communications field has trouble with it.

This will be much easier when we have a schedule that's agreed upon in advance, instead of this "I have the kids 24/7 unless something comes up" routine.

Here's what I wrote:
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subject: checking schedule
I'm planning on taking the kids to the beach for a few days and want to make sure it doesn't conflict with plans you wanted to make with them. I just added it to the calendar but if you had wanted to have them then, we can still change it. We are planning to be away 7/31 to 8/4.
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In other news, I got a chance to separately let both boys know dad said he'll be moving in August to a room in someone else's house. Both said "ok" and nothing else, no questions. Not that I would have answers anyway; it is what it is.