Wonka: The Two Towers

[JuneReN]

FYI ? When we could talk again I was so happy. For better or worse h and I are best friends and we both admitted that it was weird not to be there. H actually said he cannot imagine a life without me in it. WASs, can't kill 'em, can't join 'em and certainly don't understand them! N

[Wonka]

Thanks for the vote of confidence, Linda!

Ruby, Ms. Wonka was my true best friend and I do miss her. I think we're slowly reconnecting the friendship part and it sure feels GOOOOOD!

Update:

Since Ms. Wonka sent me the surprise text, there's been a flurry of fun, uplifting texts about the Royal baby over the last few days. Its the most we've ever 'talked' in a short period of time in over 9 years. I'm going post these texts for those other LBS with WASes in other states in the hopes of giving them some guidance on how to be detached, fun, and upbeat.

Wonka: Oops! It's a boy after all. Dang, shouldve made that bet with you and I would have won BIG!
Ms. Wonka: Ha..you did say it might be a girl! Well they kept us waiting for hours. Might as well wait for the name as well! I won't speculate.
Wonka: Got me there!! LOL Let's make a bet on the name. If I win, you owe me a quarter. Fair enough to you?
Ms. Wonka: Well..a quarter won't do. There's a million names floating around. Alexander Charles Michael Francies?! LOL
Wonka: You're taking a huge challenge with all those names! :p I was thinking of the first name. I'm going with George.

Wonka: Hey Ms. Wonka, I was RIGHT!! It's Prince George. so you owe me a quarter, my friend!!! Hip hooray for Wonka the Winner!!! Wonka
Ms. Wonka: Hey..you and I were right! I said Alexander. But you got the first name right. Of course, the poor kid is stuck with an old fashioned name. Hope we don't call him Georgie but I think it is Alexander aksa Alex will be used. A tie! Ms. Wonka
Wonka: You're a tough cookie, Ms. Wonka! Fair enough...we're even. You got Alexander somewhere in there. Still...I got the first name right so I deserve some brownie points on that one!
Ms. Wonka: Smile! Yea..bookies also bet on it. I thought they would be original but tradition rules. Have a good day! Ms. Wonka

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My dear DBers who have long-distance WASes, this is how you keep things fun and light when communicating with them. No pressure, no Eyeyre chit. Be super confident and self-assured.

[Wonka]

Eeyore chit...dang edit button!

[specialk]

Hi Wonka!

Thank you for posting this! I'm glad the interaction went so well. I am still learning to be detached, fun, and upbeat. Right now I am also trying to rebuild the friendship aspect of my relationship.

[Underdog]

Wonka,

I'm thrilled for both of you. At the very least, it looks like you have your friend back. This is the kind of friendship I have with Mr. W. If I had to choose between having him for a H and having him for this kind of friend, I'd pick this anytime. I'd like to leave this world knowing that he's been one of my best friends in this lifetime.

So I hope you get it all!

Hugs,

Bets

[Valeska19]

Well lookie there... a text from HER.

Good for you for being patient. I would say the next step is to see if she initiates more contact.

Let her move towards you... and charm her with every step she takes.

[RosaLinda]

Thanks for posting this Wonka. Your improving sitch is so encouraging to all of us who feel things are rather hopeless. Nine years! That's a long time to be missing your best friend. I'm so happy for you my friend. Your patience and perseverence are paying off. I told you so

My H was my best friend too. I so miss that. And his hugs. He still thinks of me as his dear friend I think, as when he's in the mood he chats incessantly, sharing his thoughts and feelings. But there is such a disconnect because he often "shuts down" right in the middle of a conversation, usually when I'm speaking, and walks away as if he is in a trance. It makes me so skittish to actually talk to him, so I mostly smile and validate. One sided friendship.

[RealityTrip]

Big Smiles for you! Thanks for sharing the text conversation. I hope things are going along smoothly!

[StubbornDyke]

That's great to hear, Wonka.

[RealityTrip]

Hey Wonks, the Wonkster, the Wonkmeister, Wonka-Wonka. (too much comedy central last night!)

I've got a bottle of amaretto if you've got a camp fire. I hope your day is good!