Just gettin caught up on your thread after a few days..
Quote: H asked if I had plans on SAT. I said "not so far and that might work out fine."
I know its not natural yet to casually put him off when he calls you on a THURSDAY for saturday plans..but as you see him start to pursue you MORE..you'll get better at simply saying.."Yes I do have plans on saturday, but thanks for asking..."..or better yet..."Well actually, I've got a few offers for saturday, and I'm not sure what I've decided on yet..Ok if I get back to you tomorrow?..."..Then he begins to realize that he is now in CONTENTION for weekend time with you..rather than assuming you'll make time for him...Once he gets the message that spending time with you is becoming more priviledge than a RIGHT of his..watch how he starts to call a little earlier in the week to make plans to.."see the dog"...
Quote: I had a VM from H both on my cell and at home...but still he did not ask me to call.
NEVER call him back unless he asks you to..he's beginning to pursue you now because you're consistent with doing the things that work..Acting HAPPY, avoiding R talk, not badgering him about what he's been up to, not being so ACCESSIBLE..letting him INITIATE calls..letting him WONDER what it is you're up to when you don't seem to have the time for him as much as when YOU were doing all the PURSUING way back when...
Stay consistent with giving the subtle indication that this seperation that he was convinced he needed to "UNSTICK" himself, is actually doing "wonders" for you too...Thats not the way he drew it up, which is of course why he is all of a sudden contacting you more and wanting to set time aside for you...Far cry from his first stance when he set the groundwork before leaving wouldn't you say??
Hope things go well today when he comes for a visit..
