Enough - time to move on

[MrBond]

"When it comes to value decisions, I DO want my kids to make choices and pick sides."

It doesn't work that way. Many adults can't process this how do you expect kids to?

You never answered the question of whether or not you read up on how to discuss the situation with your kids. I seriously suggest you talk to a C that deals with children and get their recommendation on how to deal with the situation.

"I don't want my children to go through a broken marriage. "

It's ironic when you say this because you "forcing" them to choose a side, is how they are going to treat their spouse. That is what you're teaching them.

If you want to teach them morality, that's fine. But what you don't seem to get is that there is a way to do it and a time.