The forum has helped me a lot! And if you are getting frustrated just vent on here!

It is very hard being separated, such a strange feeling. I keep wondering why all of this is happening, etc. Just think of all of the work that we are putting in right now, reading books, DB'ing, trying to improve our self and our relationships. In the end we will be so much stronger of a person after having done all of these things.

Baby steps and one day at a time is best! It's hard for me because I feel like I want a quick, easy answer, which obviously isn't going to happen. You are right that our children need us. I am so thankful for my 3 little ones, I am definitely staying strong for them. And seeing their smiling, laughing faces every day is keeping me happy.

I say go for the new haircut... also adds to the 'mystery', which he may find intriguing!

M: 8 yrs T:14
Twins:7 S:5
BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013
Mar/Apr/May: MC
June: "living in limbo"
Sept 12: H moves out
Oct 20: reconciling
Jan-Feb 2014:MC
Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.