To be honest, I am a little frustrated with my L because he has said he doesn't understand my desire to R and I worry he is being unnecessarily combative.
This is where you are mistaken...you DO have control over your L. You might want to have a talk with L about your concerns about the 'combativeness' issue. Set your boundary with L and watch carefully. From the very first meeting with my own L, I outlined my expectations and what I expected of them when interacting with DXW's lawyers. There were a few times when I saw that DXW's lawyer tried to be aggressive and I did not allow my L to respond in that same fashion.
I believe it is what pretty much saved my R with DXW where we are now slowly reconnecting as friends after 9 years of no communication. Because she does not have the memory of an ugly, drawn out fight with the L's.
You decide and take back your power.
Yes, I am in agreement with other posters who urge you to follow your L's advice because of the outstanding TRO. Yet, you do have influence on your own L's behavior and actions that are separate from receiving sound legal advice.
