New and need encouragement

[Not Quitting]

Well as hard as it all is at least he says he wants to work on the marriage. I'm actually jealous. Wish my W said that to me. Giving space is so hard but that's what I've rededicated myself to giving her. And not allowing her to text me as she pleases.
Have you been able to GAL? Using this time to do something for yoursf you've been wanting to do for awhile?

Saying it and meaning it are two different things. I'm trying to take it one day at a time. It took months for my H to actually say that. From BD until recently it wasn't said, so there's still chance for you. If and when H texts, I may read it right away but unless it's urgent I don't always answer it right away - just enough to keep him from saying that I'm ignoring him. I even changed the settings on my iPhone so that I don't get a message preview; just a notification of who the message is from.

No kidding that giving space is hard - it really does go against instinct. It's been really hard to simply say "good night" after being out with him instead giving him a kiss and/or hug - we were more affectionate than that when we first started dating. I've had to fight the urge to say "I love you" at the end of any phone call, to give him a hug or try to kiss him. He's actually started initiating small shows of affection again.

Trying to GAL. Never been much of one for socializer, always been more of a homebody, but I have managed to do a couple of "girls' nights" with the ladies from work. They don't happen very often since all the "girls" are married and have family commitments. I've also picked up an old hobby that I've neglected for several years. While S13 is away I've been planning the activities for the week I'm taking off work when he gets back from camp. Seriously considering cutting my hair back to similar style I wore when I first met my H - I grew it long as he likes long hair, but I think it's time I styled it to please me - short and easier to look after! Not sure I'm going to colour it again either - too expensive and it's not good for my hair. Thinking of going like Jamie Lee Curtis - short style, and greying gracefully.