ok, not a doctor, nor have I played one in a school play or anything like that...but...
Go as mild as possible...learn to mediate, etc along with anything...you may want to start with St.John's Wort or Mucuna Pruriens (herbs) to see if natural does it. Otherwise, some general thing like wellbutrin may help. You just want to take the edge off so you can do YOUR internal work, day to day stuff, etc... not just mask the symptoms and join your spouse in la-la land...
Also, a good mediation that the VA uses for PTSD is googled via "be still and know exercise"...
I take Mucuna Pruriens, helped me with quitting smoking and this sitch, BUT, meditation (including my above suggestion), working out and GAL are probably more effective in getting to where I am...and detachment, logic, big time....
Just my non-doctor 2.5 cents....YMMV
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
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