//And that's total BS that you don't want the kids to take sides.//
I want my kids to love their mom and have a good relationship with her. I do not want to create conflict between my W and our kids.
When it comes to value decisions, I DO want my kids to make choices and pick sides. I do NOT want them to grow up and model my W's behaviour. Not because I want to demonize my W, but because I don't want my children to go through a broken marriage.
My W is not making choices that align with the values I want to teach my kids. Period.
