Am I ready for this?

[BklynMom]

I do not think that you are ready for your IC advice but you do need to get out of limbo. Your W will not get you out of limbo - you will get you out of limbo.

Read the power of now.

You can not predict the future but today your wife is at home, your kids are healthy and you have an intact family. Count your blessings and be happy. You never know what misfortunes the future may bring. Live in the present.

Also do you attend regular group self help meetings either Alanon or a divorce support group. These group meetings in addition to IC have really helped me especially expanding my network of friends and stopping worrying about what she is doing.

PS - I encourage anyone to go to Alanon even if their ex partner doesnt have a drinking problem, alanon welcomes everyone