New and need encouragement

[Not Quitting]

Not Q,
What does your H mean by "we're not done yet?" Has he explained that?

The first time he said it (and that wasn't last night) I asked exactly what he meant by the statement. He said he's still willing to work on the marriage, but that he still needs time/space, and that he doesn't want to walk away from the marriage yet.

I'm giving him time and space, although a lot of people I know think I'm being stupid for putting up with him now. He has good days and bad days in terms of communicating with me. We can go days with no contact then all of sudden he's texting me frequently. Same thing goes with asking me to meet up with him - nothing for days, then its two or three days in a row. Sometimes I see the old H, more like the man I married, and sometime (although it's getting less often now) he's the new man, nothing like the man I married. It's like the fog lifts for a while then drops again, although its seems to lift more often and for longer.

Today's been a bad day for me, right from the moment I got up. His affection last night, the conversation about my dad, and combine that with the fact that S13 is away for 2 weeks at sleep-away camp - I'm really feeling the separation today. And I've definitely been the weepy, emotional wife no on would want to be with.