You know, Fy, I know I've said this before, but your wife confuses me. I cant quite figure her out.
You say that like all the other MLC'ers are so easy to figure out!
I think she was quiet because you got along with her friend. She got to see that you were not what she is trying to make you in her mind and it is confusing to her.
What I found interesting is while the 3 of us were together, we all got on quite well, like good friends would. It wasn't until GF left that W decided to withdraw. Which is the act?
I really think that she is a bit depressed, a bit restless, a bit feeling like life is passing her by. And so she feels like she should be taking steps.
You got that right, and being stuck where she's at really seems to be bugging her!
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But in reality, I dont think she ever really will. For a lot of reasons. I think she is content with her life. She gets to go out, she gets to live comfortably, she gets to have you as a friend and keep her life pretty much the way it is.
For someone who doesnt like people to know her business, that is important.
So, there is a good side to that. I dont think an OM is in her mind and a bad side, in that you stay in the friend zone.
You're emboldening me with these words.
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I do believe she is working her way through the tunnel. I do believe that she knows deep down that you are a good guy and that she needs to address this whole thing about what happened with her brother.
While of course I don't really know, the brother thing hardly seems on her radar right now... maybe never will be?
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At some point, and it is not now, you might have to start thinking about doing something different.
Until then, keep doing what you are doing.
Although I'd like to see you not quite as available to her as you seem to be, ya know?
Thanks Coach!
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
