To me, if she is initiating any kind of physical affection that is a good start! Right now, there is almost no physical affection between my H and I. I stopped initiating when I realized he probably saw that as me pursuing him/pressure.
I think it is a good sign that she is reaching out in that way. To me, I don't view that as not being romantic? Perhaps that is her way of being romantic. Do you enjoy it? Do you also reach out to her in that way? If not, perhaps it would be a good time.
M: 8 yrs T:14 Twins:7 S:5 BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013 Mar/Apr/May: MC June: "living in limbo" Sept 12: H moves out Oct 20: reconciling Jan-Feb 2014:MC Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.