Enough - time to move on

[MrBond]

You were the one who involved the kids into it. All they saw was mom talking to a "friend". The issue is that there is a time and way to explain the situation to them and doing it the way you did was wrong. Especially in front of the young one. Have you read anything about how to talk to your kids about what's going on?

And that's total BS that you don't want the kids to take sides. You told them what mommy was doing was bad, and to them it sounded like you're saying that mommy IS bad. You don't understand that the kids think that both YOU and YOUR W are perfect. You don't need to have them think any differently.

You were working off your emotions. Period.