lost and alone now

[kelela]

Hello 180

I just wanted to share this with you that I had found on one of my other sites I go to once in awhile i thought this was very inspirational:

Maybe it's not always about trying to fix something broken.
Maybe its about starting over and creating something better.

I will try to apply this to my every day thinking and I think this may help me to improve myself and to move on.

[TryingToDo180]

That sounds good K In a way I've started over, I've got myself a whole new set of single friends. Some from the carnival committee and some from the Church It'll be nice though that eventually our Hs will start something new with us
You're doing really well and thinking more positively now We're all going to have our sh**ty day, but we're managing. You'll be fine and it's good that your H is helping you financially as well

[kelela]

Yes we went through everything he will have the boys on the weekends. At first he wanted every other week and I told him no that is not going to work since they are going to start school soon. So I told him he can have them on the weekends or on the days he is off. And I told him as of right now they are not allowed to meet OW at this time while we are still legally married. He told me that he will not do that right now cause its going to be hard enough that we are splitting up. I hope he keeps his words for now. And for financial he is giving me support for The boys.

[mizjjd]

Hi K.

Time for a new thread. Remember that DB likes for threads to no get any longer than 100 posts.



I am looking forward to your Kelela - positive title

[kelela]

Oh OK I'll think about the next title

[MrBond]

Have you seen a L yet? I would really consider getting the amount of money you're going to get from him down in writing. ESPECIALLY since he's with OW. Not only is he going to start giving you less because he's going to spend it on her, but she's going to not like the idea of him giving money to you and will try to influence him.

[TryingToDo180]

Have you set up your new thread K? Let me know what it's called when you do. Mrbond, it's not a good idea for K to demand money off him at this stage. I read a book that had a testimonial in it about the WAS spending all his money on the OW and the W didn't demand a penny. Guess who he chose in the end? I would go to see an L if H doesn't keep to his word and you need the money!

[kelela]

Mr. Bond yes I have already seen a L for an consultation and he has given me lots of advice on what I need to do. I understand what you are saying but I know he will give me the money that he has told me that he is giving to me. If he doesn't then all I have to do is ho and see his boss about it and they can garnish is wages and plus OW will not interfere cause I also can get her fired from her job due to I know where she works and per her profession it will not be good for her to mess with me. I know she works for a law firm and plus she is married and her law firm will not stand for affairs and it will l
Make their law firm have a bad reputation that one if their own is having a marriedel affair. And plus I have my MIL she will make sure her son pays me that money cause that money is for our boys to make sure they get what they need. And my paycheck is for me and what I need to do for myself and the bills I have to take care of. So I'll have to see how I can stretch my paycheck if not I'll have to get a second job. But I won't know what my new step will be until next month. So I need to take it a step at a time. I have the whole month if Aug to figure that out. H said he will pay for The bills in the month of Aug then I'll take over them in September so that gives me some time to save my paychecks for the month of September. And I know if I need anything more for The boys I can ask H for more help. He told me that he is not going to let me hanging without not having what I need for our boys.

[kelela]

Hello 180 I had just started a new topic called A New Beginning. I hope to hear from you soon . How are things with you. I'm doing better I actually had a really great sleep last night I didn't get I'll every hour like I have been doing for the last two monthes. Starting to let go a little bit of H but I'm still not giving up on our marriage. I'm justs stepping back and away from H to give him the same he needs and the space I need to grow. Well I'll talk to you later 180. Have a good night.

[TryingToDo180]

K, you seem to have got it all sorted out Let's hope he keeps to his word or there'll be trouble! lol.
Hope you and the kids are ok