Okay so another email from her "R--, If you find any important papers that pertain to me, could you please send them my way. I'm wondering if any of those papers got tucked in to other folders? Thank you!"
I dont know but this one seems to indicate to me she is concerned about the car paperwork. But, then again she left things here with another question.
I agree with Cadet He's had much more experience at this DB stuff than I have Don't answer the email, just send any important documents to her, with maybe a couple of line to say hope this is what you wanted. Let me know if you need anything else. Yes it's great to be busy I'm off out again in 5 mins. My friend has invited me around for a meal Had a VERY busy day today!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Good for you Trying being busy busy....Anyways when you do settle in later read my posts starting from last evening. I would like to hear your thoughts also. I dont know what to believe about her initiating the email from last night about her car paperwork. A friend of mine in the neighborhood who has been helping me says last nites email was bogus and just an attempt to make contact. But, then u look at todays emails from all (3) and it might give an appearance of concern about the car paperwork. And as I am writing this another email from her arrives. Whoa the roller coaster ride is in full swing. and this is another one with a question for me to answer...hmmmm
"Think I found what I was looking for! Does the DMV usually send you your updated registration? I always keep my current registration in the car, but its only showing 2011".
Now she is leaving me with questions to answer her back...
No expectations, I know this, but what is going on? all this time nothing but cold icy responses even to things I did at her request. Now, I left her alone for what, 10 days and she starts emailing me with requests and questions. Obviously in friendly manner also. So this is the roller coaster?
It could be part of the rollercoaster and it could be anything. We would be mindreading if we knew what was going on in their brain. The most confusion seems to be at the beginning and the very end.
She is being ruled by emotions and adrenalin right now. Best to let this part cool down and then see where you are at.
MHO is when in doubt do nothing. Sit back and be patient and the answers will come to you.
.Go back and count how many times your wife contacted you since you have been posting. And you wrote that she is 900 miles away and will NEVER contact you.
Hi 2old, I have been responding to your messages from last night. I've managed to get on a couple of times today I would listen to cadet as he knows what he's talking about. She sounds like she's getting closer to you, but don't let this stop your doing a 180 on her. The only time you should start getting closer to her is when she wants MC or talks about R. As cadet says, if you don't know what to do or what to reply then do nothing. If you do speak to her, then be polite and friendly but not too friendly. Get busy, so that you are too busy to check your emails as often. Have you done anything about GAL yet? If she does come back, is she coming back to a changed man or is it going to be same old, same old! I know I've got a lot of work to do on me before H comes back (or not!). Whatever happens, I need to work on me so if H doesn't come back and I get a new partner then the same thing won't happen with him! Be prepared for her return, go to the gym, go on a diet, clean and tidy the house, etc. If or when she comes back, if nothing's improved then she might just leave again!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I understand trying...I mean all the emails today and still some coming in. Seems that yes, she has turned nicer towards me but also she seems to be on a mission with her car. About getting it registered. So Im not really sure what to think. About those important papers in a bag we have she did ask that I send her any pertaining to her earlier today (other than the ones for the car). So that indicates she is still keeping distant but willing to open up now to talk about little thingsmwith me. I dont know it's like you guys r saying a roller coaster ride that doesn't let you off. So, yes I must back off and do it for me because even though she seems to be opening up more than ever it does appear she is still needing of things from me. But again she has indeed opened up whatever is really in her mind....
He's had much more experience at this DB stuff than I have