Three years ago, my wife called me home from work to talk. She dropped the bomb on me. We had been seeing a marriage counselor for a few months prior. She wanted to end our marriage. She justified her intention by saying she's not happy, fulfilled and isn't in love with me anymore. I begged pleaded, cried and wallowed. I argued that we couldn't split up as we had 2 small kids and we are a family. We both have an obligation and responsibility to maintian this family. Finally, she agreed to go to a Retrouvaille weekend. While there, we realized that these other couples had such bigger problems than we did and she agreed to seek therapy and work on our marriage. Along the way, I found Michelle's book: DB. While I followed the process, I discovered she was having an EA, possibly a PA. Over the next couple of months, he ended the relationship which was out of state where they were working on a project. After that, our relationship improved. Now, 3 years later, I have discoverd that my wife is involved in a very heated PA!! I am crushed and terrified that my marriage is over based on their emails, texts and plans for the future together! She has no idea I know any of this. I am rereading DB and have ordered DR to read as well. My big question is Do I practice DB and DR now, confront her about the affair or wait for the BOMB!?? Please provide some suggestions. I don't want to provide her encouragement to leave of file for D. Please help!!!
Vince B M=10 yrs T=13 yrs M45 / H 44 2 Boys 5 & 8 D Day: 7/16/13
