also get the book "Divorce Remedy" by Michele Weiner Davis and read it. you can get it from Amazon or maybe even your public library. it will help you determine which actions are "reinventing yourself" and which are "desperate attempts".

in the meantime, here are the "37 rules". print them out and read them. and then read them again as often as necessary.
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...nt=4&page=1

Me: 60 H: 63
married 40, together 42
3 grown kids