I am titanium

[RosaLinda]

"I feel very strong and in control right now. I feel I'm getting stronger and okay with the idea of not being with him. That I really can move on from all of this. There was no wavering on compromising on my part this time."

Yes you ARE very strong my friend. Very well done. I am so glad that you went home and thought things out, stayed calm, and laid out your boundaries. These are good boundaries, and he knows that you mean it and will file for divorce if he breaches them.

Thanks for asking about the disconnect. It's interesting that he feels it, but cannot really explain it yet. Maybe in time. Also interesting that he did not apologize, and thinks that you would be laughing at him if you were to leave him. He must have a really poor self image to think that.

Before I started DBing, I also told my H that I miss being in a relationship with him, that it is too hard to be in limbo. He also told me that he is comfortable there, that he cannot make a decision now, and would I please give him time. Thanks for sharing that your H said the same thing sort of. I thought my H might have been just playing me, using me to support him until he can get on his feet and bring his Tramp to the US, but since your H said the same thing, maybe it is just more MLC confusion.

You did great Raine. I hope my sitch never comes to this, but if it does, I hope I can carry it off with as much compassion, grace and dignity as you.