I'm doing terrible. I've started waking up at 4 am again with a knot in my stomach. I am just not able to detach at all. I think a lot of it is due to how normal she seems. I find her looking at me often. Getting in my space too much. Twice she has texted me and made comments about how my being nice to her must be an act. She invited me to ride with her to pick up the boys one evening. We're having company over for supper tonight. So many "normal" activities.
Mtman, I am in the same place right now, and it's killing me too. I read this forum and realize that my sitch is better than many of the others here: My W is not mean or nasty, she is living at home, and for all outward appearances, everything is 'normal'. Yet I am anxiety ridden, unable to fully concentrate at work, and have an empty feeling inside.
I have a session scheduled with my DB coach for Friday and I'm going to ask her how to detach while still living a 'normal' life together?
The rational me says all I have to do is wait this out and let her sort through her internal strife. I know others on this forum say, "you're not waiting" you GAL and live your life. My problem is that I see and interact with my W every day. It is difficult to detach and not care about what she is doing and/or thinking.
So I don't have any advice for you, but just wanted to offer encouragement.
