I have decided after reading everyone's thoughts on the subject and after some soul searching that I realize I am now divorced, and i have no reason to send any type of letter to my XW.
The things i have done right or wrong since BD are in the past. I can no longer do anything about them. Maybe it is helping me come to terms with some of this, maybe i am starting to finally have some peace from within regarding these past 7 months.
I have to consciously think about what i am going to do now for myself and i realize that by sending XW any type of letter is not going to do ME any good.
I can't change anything about the past, and i need to start forgiving myself and move on. I find it easier now post D and i also find it much easier by not having any contact with XW.
This has been the worst experience of my life, and i know i will be stronger for it at some point, but it will take some more time.
It's time for me to be happy again!
Me: 41 W: 36 M:9 yrs Together: 12 yrs Kids S7 S4 BD: 01/13 W filed 5/13 D final 8/13
