Thanks catperson. She kept on texting, so I figured I'd better say something. She said "or am I just not allowed to have a cat?" I wasn't that succinct, but I did say "I'm sorry I didn't appreciate the work you did here or help enough." I wish I'd have worded it like you said - more her and less me! I told her Monday would be ok, but I wanted to see him too.
She answered back that I can see him some weekends, "if I don't give her a hard time about paperwork signing, and stuff" <sigh> (visitation rights for a cat - see what happens with us childless couples).
But, we're back to the way she's always been, though about being independent (not). She said she might have to use the CC to buy some furniture because "she's giving me all the furniture." And "I don't know if you're willing to split that expense."
This is where it's hard to not be a doormat.... Last week it was "you need to get your own credit card" when I used it for a rental care because she left me here with no car. I'm just letting that one sit for a while. Not sure what changed there. I know she's always been selfish. She's acknowledged that fault herself. She was a single child and was basically neglected and has always really struggled with ideas of what's fair and of sharing. Anyway....
At least she's stopped telling me about R with OM every time and how she's found a connection with someone, blah blah blah.... Used to get that with every text/email.
