New and need encouragement

[Not Quitting]

I don't know that he's serious but it deserves further talk about it.

NQ, is he still in communication with OW?

LABug, as he's already moved out I can't be sure to what extent, but yes he is. He says its only minimal - what that means only he knows. Last night he wasn't texting back and forth with anyone - he used to be doing that constantly. The one text/call he made was to the people he's living with to let them know he wasn't going to be home for dinner.

He frequently says he doesn't want to lose his son - he's already "lost" two as they want nothing to do with him. I think I believe that he wants to work on his marriage - that's based on what I know of both XW1 and XW2. He didn't make any attempt at reconciliation with either of them. With us, it's different. Although he's said about filing for divorce he hasn't, and it took 6 months before he moved out. He was the one that told me about OW - I never suspected anything. He said he told me because of guilt. He has frequently said he wants to work on us, that we're not over.

How much do I push to get a conversation going to follow up further with last night's talk. Do I tell him I'll do whatever it takes, including risking a rift with my family, which at this point I'm prepared to do. I'll find the money somewhere for rent if it comes to it, even if it means a 2nd job and/or filing bankruptcy insteead of just debt settlement.