Quote: I responded later in the day with family info, simple feedback and told him "I'll contact you when I get back from AZ if I have anything to fill you in on.." But then a couple hours later H CALLED ME.
VERY GOOD Mooka!! Of course he called you, because he wasn't expecting you to say that YOU'LL CALL HIM IF YOU NEED TO..those are the words of a confident woman who is UPBEAT and DOESN'T APPEAR TO BE WAITING AROUND..thats awfully attractive for starters, and secondly, it turns the tables a little because you are setting the tone instead of always following/reacting to his..
Quote: He wanted to know if I was still feeling bad about our last conv. "I said no, I'm moving in a forward direction and just taking good care of me."
Not bad, but if you want to get him to PURSUE a little more, you might try in a happy non chalant tone.."You know, this might sound strange..but to be perfectly honest, I HAVEN'T really thought about our last conversation, my mind has been focused on OTHER things.." and then shift the converstaion to something else so he is left to WONDER what you mean by that..This is how you USE the SPACE and SEPERATION to YOUR advantage, by ACTING perfectly happy JUST THE WAY THINGS ARE right now..
Of course he's going to call you before you go to AZ, and unless you feel its important to take that call, there is nothing in the rule book that says you have to take that call. I'd let it go unanswered, because you did TELL him you'd call him AFTER you got back....
Its ok to let him feel the consequences of HIS CHOICE to seperate. YOUR choice is to move forward with or without him, and when he really starts to see that legitimately happening, my uneducated guess is things will turn for the better..
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