As far as the debt goes and this is coming from expierence, have you concidered chapter 7 bankruptcy? I went through it 4 years ago a d it saved my marriage (for a while) as at least saved it from money being a cause. It was a very simple process and was able to still purchase cars when needed and a small emergency credit card. Just a thought if that's a big problem in your sitch.

I'm not sure that in this case it is pursuing if that's the huge issued here. Him knowing that your ok to move out from your dads for him and your son then I think it wouldn't hurt just to make sure he knows but you need the commitment and the other issues in the marriage are being addresed. Maybe ask a Vet that one.

M:33
W:32
Married:8
Together:10
S:5,4 and 8 months
BD: 4/1/13
W move out day: 5/4/13
ILYBNINWY,WAS. No talk of wanting to save relationship