New and need encouragement

[Not Quitting]

If you agree, why is it insurmountable?

The main thing making it insurmountable is finances. Debt settlement means bad credit rating. Income for both of us is low - not low enough for goverment support though - and rental properties in our area are rare and not cheap. H doesn't drive and works shifts to make things more interesting, so good public transit is a must. Also means we can't move out of area as the "cheaper to live" areas are not connected to this city by transit. And if things don't work out, the rent has to be something I can carry on my own.

Would it be wrong to suggest that maybe we try relocating to a lower cost area and both get new jobs (or I commute) in an attempt to reconcile? One of th things H talked about last night was that he was thinking of changing jobs, and I'm already looking for something that pays more.

There are other problems which I fully believe we can get past. But if he's not willing to work through things in our curent residential situation, can I be sure he'd be willing to try somewhere else.

I guess I just scared of being left to handle rent along with other expenses on my own, and not having my dad around for support because I've upset him by moving out and leaving him on his own when he's still grieving.