No firing away, you need to do what works for you. You'll might hear from some folks here that checking in is temperature checkin, and it is.

You'll need to really keep your expectations in check.

Did your IC help you set some boundaries?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss