Well, we all have these moments, and of course we always regret them, but you really can't blame yourself. I asked the same question and allthough the response I got was different, I could tell that it set me back, big time..because its pursuing and that violates their "freedom" . Its hard to have to feel like you're walking on egg shells, but thats what you have to do when R talk comes along. Your H clearly wants to call the shots or so it seems, he's allowed to ask questions about your feelings, but he's also allowed to get defensive when you ask a simple question about what his address is. So, the best way to handle that is to stay consistent with what I tell people OVER and OVER again. Just always act happy just the way things are, NO R talk, keep your feelings to yourself until he starts spilling his EVEN if he asks you first.., give him space and AGREE until you are blue in the face that this SPACE IS FOR THE BEST. Right now your H is under the impression its all about him UNSTICKING himself, which is fine, just happily go along with it, be supportive and see what happens.
Quote: I want time and space and will call you AFTER you get back from AZ.
Now, here's a little advice if you want to maybe see things get "unstuck" just a tad bit faster..Every once in awhile, don't be afraid to start telling HIM the same things you are hearing...AGREE, and take it one step further, tell him in a non chalant manner to not bother calling when you get back from AZ, You''ll CALL HIM..IF YOU NEED HIM FOR ANYTHING...
I can almost assure you you instantaneously change the dynamics when you give out a little "loving" dose of what you are being served... . When you have the courage to say that in a sincere way, it gives him something else to think about like.."She needs her space?? where did that come from, I didn't expect her to need HER space, I'M the one with the ISSUES..She's not supposed to be unsure about us??..I WONDER IF SHE REALLY MEANS IT...
Do you see how you CAN influnce things by simply LETTING GO?..
. Its hard to have to feel like you're walking on egg shells, but thats what you have to do when R talk comes along. Your H clearly wants to call the shots or so it seems, he's allowed to ask questions about your feelings, but he's also allowed to get defensive when you ask a simple question about what his address is. So, the best way to handle that is to stay consistent with what I tell people OVER and OVER again. Just always act happy just the way things are, NO R talk, keep your feelings to yourself until he starts spilling his EVEN if he asks you first.., give him space and AGREE until you are blue in the face that this SPACE IS FOR THE BEST. Right now your H is under the impression its all about him UNSTICKING himself, which is fine, just happily go along with it, be supportive and see what happens. 
. When you have the courage to say that in a sincere way, it gives him something else to think about like.."She needs her space?? where did that come from, I didn't expect her to need HER space, I'M the one with the ISSUES..She's not supposed to be unsure about us??..I WONDER IF SHE REALLY MEANS IT... 
