OK, no hammer from me. I had a similar situation and a similar blow up. W got over it, evidently your H will too.
Also, for what it's worth, I didn't feel too bad about that particular backslide. I mean lets face it, if they ask what you are thinking, what did they expect? Also, I don't think it's unreasonable for a W to know the address of her H, especially if there are kids involved.
I think you handled it pretty well. I'd have gone off on his pompous a$$. Trying to lecture you! I'd have told him to screw himself. (Matter of fact, I think I did tell my W that a few times...not good and another story.)
He hopes you learned something??? Did he?
OK, sorry, I got off on a tangent. Just remember, if you fall off, you can usually get back on and they don't even notice because they aren't thinking right. Also, it's one thing to apologize for upsetting him, and to validate his feelings, but you don't have to apologize for doing something you think is reasonable, like asking for his address.
That's the difference between validating and being a doormat in my opinion.
