chl, just be the best person you can be. You have to let a lot of things go to ride this train. H still can't believe I didn't burn all his sh*t.
Now he has come over to the dark side of calm and happy. Who knew?
Can't say our M will be saved but I can say after 10 months I really like who I am and what I am doing. I will tell you one thing: I did 180's on all my behaviours, loved H enough to let him go. GF gave H an ultimatum, me or her. He choose his friendship with me. I can guarantee that if I hadn't taken a good hard look at myself, that would not have happened.
As I said, can't say we will have a marriage again, but being able to define myself apart has been a good thing.
