2.) My therapist (and myself) think there may have been an OM at some point for various reasons. I know the common wisdom on the internet is "once a cheater, always a cheater." Do you guys think this is true? I don't know if I do or not.
I don't know where that started, but it is not true.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!